Slow WiFi? Complain. Lengthy waits in traffic? Grumble. Zit on face? Whimper. Product out of stock? Whine. Mondays? Denounce. Too sunny,cold or humid? Fuss. Waking up early in the morning? Mewl. Broken heel? Moan. Smudged lipstick? Snivel. Our life is full of carping, criticizing and complaining. Humans are never satisfied with what they have, instead they grovel for what they do not have. This poisons the essence of our life. We live this life once *YOLO*, therefore: complain less- enjoy more, frown less- smile more, cry less- laugh more and take less-give more. Life is a roller-coaster ride with a rainbow of experience and emotions, enjoy the ride rather than fretting and grumbling. Don’t let your mind cage your heart and imprison your soul; enjoy every second of your life.
“For every minute you are angry, you lose 60 seconds of happiness”- goes a famous reading. Thus, make it a point to choose your happiness over your adversities in life and live the experience called LIFE.
10. Count your blessings
“When upon life’s billows you are tempest-tossed,
When you are discouraged thinking all is lost,
Count your many blessings; name them one by one,
And it will surprise you what the Lord has done.”
This is a famous Hymn, reminding you to look at the privileges you enjoy, rather than counting on your can of worms.
You’ll be filled with plight if you look around at most of the underprivileged people who struggle for even the basic necessities of life. You are much more privileged than you think you are. God has showered you with love, care, happiness and all the basic necessities of life, which some people can only dream of, thus be grateful and stop complaining, remember – “Count your many blessing every doubt will fly, and you will keep singing as the days go by.”
Be your own judge, look into the mirror and take your life in your own hands. Introspection or self-reflection is the best way to get a glimpse of one’s own conducts, thoughts, desires and emotions and also acknowledge our faults, flaws, failures and shortcomings, thus making our lives peaceful and content. Always make time to dive into your soul and chop the roots of sorrow, suffering, pain, despair, vice and flaws and plant the seeds of optimism, gaiety, joy and delight. Therefore, introspection is a key to self-acceptance and happiness.
Undergo the process of purgation or catharsis and vent out out all the repressed emotions. Pour your heart out or confide into a close friend, or just weep. Weeping is not a sign of weakness, rather it allows your pain to disappear, your stress to get relieved and your mood to cheer up. Moreover, pouring your heart out to a confidante is a sure-shot way to get rid of the anxiety and grief burdened in your heart. Thus, catharsis or an overflow of emotions is the best way to lighten your heart and brighten your smile.
7. Embrace imperfection
“Nobody is perfect”- goes an age-old saying. However, we still hunt for perfection: A perfect life-partner, a perfect job, a perfect figure, and so on. Clinging on to the hope of perfection is exactly what leaves us complaining. Thus, it is essential to acknowledge and accept the imperfections of people around us and also of our own selves. Imperfection is beauty, it is the natural essence of a person and by expecting others or ourselves to change and become perfect, we corrupt their or our own caliber.
“The glass is half-full”, “The grass is greener on the other side” are some of the famous quotes that stress on the need to be an optimist. In this world full of negativity, be a ray of positivity and hold a positive outlook, which is the key to lead a happy life. Don’t assume and always be positive in any situation. Optimism reduces stress levels, promotes happiness, gives a sense of fulfillment and gives you peace of mind. Thus, it is essential to be positive and confident about any situations in life.
Self-peace and self-content are pivotal in curbing the qualities of carping. Thus, in order to remain calm and composed, it is essential to meditate. The best form of meditation is YOGA. Indulge in activities that are helpful in calming you down, driving away your adversities and leaving you in a healthy state of mind. Meditation has proven to increase your health and happiness, gives you a healthy heart and sharp brain, boosts your social life, increases wisdom and gives you a perspective, reduces stress, improves concentration, slows aging and encourages a healthy lifestyle. *Breathes in, breathes out*
4. Live in the present
“Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment”-Buddha.
Most of our complains arise from living too much in the past or thinking too much about the future, which completely disrupts the beauty of the present. Do not dig into the past. Let bygones, be bygones and live every moment in the present rather than stressing on what’s gone.
Being ambitious and having a plan is appreciated, but do not live too much in the future as well. Work hard, socialize, spend time with friends and family, meditate and enjoy the present moment of your life for a beautiful tomorrow.
3. Find passions that nurture your soul
Look out for your own happiness. Do what you love and love what you do. Seek for the passions or interests that feed your soul, leaving you with content and immense happiness.
Read, write, compose, paint, educate, cure, build, sing, dance and do whatever pleases your soul and takes you into euphoria.
2. Forgive and forget
Kiss and make-up rather than fight and break-up. Do not regret anything or seek for revenge. Life is too short to hold grudges or rivalry. “Don’t let the shadows of your past darken the doorstep of your future”. Therefore, let go certain things and spread the love. Humans are an embodiment of shortcomings. Be wise and learn to forgive people. “Remember, when you forgive you heal. And when you let go, you grow.”
1. Be yourself
Embrace your imperfections, your shortcomings and love yourself the most. Happiness begins from within. Be proud and confident of yourself. Stay calm and composed. Push yourself to achieve your dreams. Control your anger, curb the carping and limit negative thinking. Don’t change yourself completely but always keep a room for improvement. Spread love and smile more often. “Be yourself because the original is worth more than a copy” 🙂
Thus, by following the above tips you can curb the negativity and drive it out of your life and welcome optimism, immense joy and happiness, love, care and share, merriment and cheerfulness in your life.