10 Ways to come out of Dependent Personality Disorder (DPD)

DPD i.e  is the most frequently diagnosed disorder to be found. The person suffering from DPD tends to exhibit submissive behaviour. This results in pervasive effect on the person’s health, relationship and social life. Many people today are unmindful of this chronic mental illness.

Are you among them who continuously try to seek company? Have you always found yourself struck in situations where decision-making is a herculean task? Butterfingered and Wet Blankets are the exact words which describe you? If the answers to these questions are ‘A BIG YES’, then you might be suffering from DPD. Here are 8 ways you can adopt to get rid of DPD-

1. Just Believe In Yourself


The first step in believing yourself is to accept yourself the way you are. Never doubt your abilities and try to replicate someone else’s flair. God loves diversity, henceforth he has created us differently. If you accept defeat in your mind,you already have lost it in reality. Self confidence is a key factor in determining the course of life you will have. If you don’t believe in yourself, nobody else will. It is the greatest tool with which you can fight against all odds. “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God ” ~ Marianne Williamson

2. Have a positive attitude


Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see the shadows — Helen Keller. Its time that you  should start believing in new beginnings. In a car, we all have noticed, the windshield is larger than the rear view mirror. While driving, it is more important to concentrate on things which is ahead rather than on which is left behind. Same rule applies in our life. Focus on the future and just learn from your mistakes. Surround yourself with people who give you postivity.

3. Spend time with yourself everyday


Every morning you should meet the person who needs you the most. Now stop wondering about that person and stand infront of the mirror. Yes, the person is you. You need to put efforts to discover the real you. The act of introspection is the best way to know the insight. You will be glad by the wisdom you will receive during this process. Everyday meditation may unburden you with your doubts and anxiety. You will experience peace, courage and clarity in life. “Reading makes a full man, meditation a profound man, discourse a clear man”. – Benjamin Franklin

4. Be responsible for what you can do


This is your life and you should be the navigator of it. Stop making excuses to avoid responsibility. You need to understand that sooner or later, it will all be on you. Focus on your potential rather than on your limitations. Each day set small goals which you will accomplish on your own. Reward yourself when you have attained the goal. Always have a positive and challenging attitude towards work. Start initiating conversations and projects.

5. Inculcate hobbies in your Routine


Take efforts to develop skills and polish your talents. Devoting time on your strength is the best investment you can make. It will build your confidence and enhance your demeanor. Take out your guitar which is rusting at the corner, learn pottery making or go for an adventurous trip. Just try new things which will add substance to your life. It will not only give you an adrenaline rush but also an opportunity to try out new things.

6. Let Books be your alone time companion


“Whenever you read a good book, somewhere in the world a door opens to allow in more light”–Vera Nazarian.  Books give you the power to travel around the world without letting you leave your chair. Reading books can give you a new perception and will power. You will be able to do tasks that you once thought difficult. It will unleash your inhibitions and hesitations. Next time when you are idly sitting at home, do consider flipping the pages of a quality book. With knowledge comes confidence; With confidence comes the ability to work.

7. Don’t compare yourself with others


Every time when you learn that your siblings and friends are doing well, don’t start comparing. You have to genuinely appreciate and extract inspiration from their success.  You are unique and have god gifted talents. You need to discover and mend your own ways to get at the top of the ladder. It may take time for you to overcome those huddles and it may appear that life is being stagnant. But buckle up, be persistent enough to break those barriers. You have a long way to go.

8. Join any fellowship of your interest


Look for a club of your kind and get yourself enrolled. These fellowship will provide you a platform for interaction with people of similar interests. Such friendly environment will ease your way to open up. Get involved in the co-curricular activities organized by the club.You may get the transition which you always desired for. You can get away with DPD with a little determination and self reliance.

9. Seek help from your friends and family members


They are the people who know you in and out. If you diligently seek their advice, they will be your north star. They will help you to overcome with the clingy behavior. Their love and encouragement is the ailment what you need. But remember, you need to keep in check that you do not get overdependent on them. Trust your senses and make everyday decision for yourself.

10. Have an appointment with a psychiatrist


Therapy is an effective way to treat DPD. Counseling can bridge the gap between you and your resolutions. A psychiatrist will analyze your problem and counsel you to bring positive changes. Don’t hesitate or hide your problems and setbacks from your psychiatrist. It will put you in more trouble. They will help you manage your emotions better. You get aware of your inner self. The person will develop communication and self introspection skills. After all, ” You, Yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection”~ Gautama Buddha


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Smriti Soren