Being the eldest child in the family gives you certain privileges and takes some off. At the end of the day, you have to deal with it all. Telling my own story here as I am the eldest daughter in my family, with a younger brother and sister. To be very honest, it is not the best or the worst thing that could happen to you. If you happen to be the eldest child in the family, then you have loads of advantages packed up with almost the same number of disadvantages too!
Great Thing About Being the Eldest child: Everyone Depends on YOU.
Worst Thing About Being the Eldest child: Everyone Depends on YOU!
Nevertheless, if you are the oldest child, you have the privilege to feel honoured as it means that you were so amazing and awesome that your parents kept trying to duplicate! Not to forget that a coin has two sides and so does “Being the Eldest child”.
Here are some Advantages and Disadvantages for you to go through!
1. You are in Authority!
Being older than someone automatically makes you authorised to command or instruct. Similarly, you can order your younger brother or sister and they have no choice but to obey! This advantage comes into proper existence when your parents are out for work and your younger sibling is at home with you
You are the elder one to your sister and naturally, you can give her advice. Be it studies or be it relationships, you are completely eligible to guide her to the best path! You will have the most recent experience as compared to your parents, which is one of the many advantages, so your perception about certain things might actually be of great help!
As far as freedom is concerned, you definitely enjoy that much earlier than your younger sibling. You can roam around with your friends and party late night or show off your new bike to your 12-year-old brother. You are elder and you get all such stuff earlier than him! It is obvious that you get to do things first, be it your first bike ride or first holiday trip with friends!
4. You are The Role Model for them:
With your experience and that extra bit of knowledge, you can give suggestions to your younger sibling. And what generally happens with this is that they look forward to you and you kind of become their role model! Knowing this feeling of someone looking up to you makes you fell better! It makes us more cautious and hence more responsible.
5. More Chance Of You Being Successful
This could be so, maybe because normally parents have more time(comparatively) to devote to the first child because you were their only child for a time. A study earlier this year from the University of Essex, says that you are more likely to succeed if you are the first-born. As a matter of fact, more than half of all US Presidents and Nobel Prize winners have been the eldest child in their respective families. Even if we don’t take it as a hard and fast rule, we cannot deny the positive direction of being the ‘ELDEST’ child in the family
Let us explore some of the disadvantages of being the eldest sibling:
1.Being Scolded for every second thing!
One of the most common backdrops of being the eldest sibling is that it is always you who gets all the scoldings from your parents even when the younger one is the culprit. Irritating… Uugghh!
2. Free Babysitter
You are always supposed to take care and stay with your little brother/sister if they aren’t that little to stay by themselves! There are times when plans are cancelled just because there has to be someone to stay at home with your little sister/brother.Their cranky behaviour is complimentary here!
3. Extra Pressure
We all are familiar with that everyone says, that your younger siblings will follow your footsteps. This leads to that extra pressure which builds in one’s hand. When your life is so demanding and you have so much to do ahead, being the eldest sibling in the house puts that extra bit of responsibility on your already heavy shoulders. You got to look after them and take care as if you are their deputy parents!
One of the silliest disadvantages of having a younger sibling is that you have to do their homework and projects as well. Imagine you are stuck up with your assignment and your mom asks you to look after your sister’s project… Trouble!
5. NO LIMELIGHT:
Its so common and obvious that it is the younger children who get the majority of care, attention and limelight as we call it. As we grow older, the attention gets divided, this is inevitable. They are the ones who are supposed to be much more pampered than us. And sometimes it can make you feel left out!